It all started with a tweet. I was scanning through my Twitter feed when a single tweet caught my eye. My sweet friend, Jana, a mom of three beautiful girls and wife of a Nashville church planter posted this:
When people say things like "I don't know how you get out the door in the morning" that isn't very encouraging.
This tweet was so disturbing to me. I had so many thoughts like. . . How dare someone say that to a young mom!? Why would anyone make such an awful and discouraging comment? I prayed the Lord would help me to counter this response and then posted this on my Facebook in response:
If you see a young mama today please encourage her. Don't say things like "I am not sure how you get out the door every day" or "I can't imagine how hard your life must be" Help her carry her bags, buy her a Starbucks, encourage her and let her know that she is doing one of the best things possible. . . raising her babies. Ps 127:3
Our response to mamas with little ones should be two fold:
One, we are either life givers or life takers with our words.
With a simple passing comment we can breathe life into someone who is laboring hard to raise children or we can cut them to the core. Sure, life with young kids is difficult. There were many occasions when I am not sure how I made it out the door when my children were four, 18 months and a newborn. However, the helpful moment in arriving at my destination was to have an encouraging word offered or a helping hand. . .not a snide remark. Mamas already know how hard their job is! They are living it. Let’s help them along with an encouraging word, a helping hand and a pleasant response.
And two, we as a culture have truly bought into the lie that children are a burden.
Scripture says the exact opposite in Psalm 127:3 “Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward.” My friend, Annie Laurie said it well, “We are so saturated with what secular culture defines as what it means to parent and parent well, many believing moms (and women) can’t see that they are believing lies.”
We need God’s Word to remind us of the truth in a world that is screeching lies in our ears. Children are a blessing. The fruit of the womb is a gift, not a burden to be emphasized. Be reminded of this truth woven through scripture!
Danielle lives in Atlanta, Georgia where she serves as the Ministry Coordinator for Christ Covenant Buckhead. She is the former East Campus Kids Director at Sojourn Community Church in Louisville, KY. She is married to Ryan who serves at the North American Mission Board and has 3 children ages 15, 11 and 9.