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Listening for Racial Reconciliation

Listening for Racial Reconciliation

It’s hard to listen when I realize the world can look so different from another point of view. I feel in over my head. Conversations about race can make white people uncomfortable, but love for our neighbor requires us to listen.

What Our Nation's Leaders Need

What Our Nation's Leaders Need

If we aren't asking God to transform our leaders’ hearts, who are we to complain about their ungodly leadership? We are called to make our requests known to God (Phil 4:6), and that includes desires for transformation in the hearts of our leaders.

Perfectionism Isn't Impressive, It's Deadly

Perfectionism Isn't Impressive, It's Deadly

Being particular isn’t the equivalent of being godly. Godliness isn’t perfection for those of us who are saved sinners; godliness is pursuing faithfulness and obedience amidst our repentance as we strive to please Christ—even with our failings.

When We Need a Break from Ministry

When We Need a Break from Ministry

The kind of thinking that attempts to bear the burdens of others as Christ instead of with Christ makes a ministry with foundations not in Jesus, but in the one who has put himself/herself in Jesus’ place. Such a ministry is thinking far too highly of itself (Rom 12:3).

When Someone Doesn't Like You

When Someone Doesn't Like You

Realizing I've been unfriended. Finding out I wasn't invited. The sting of disapproval and rejection cuts to the heart. I don't like to admit it, but I desperately want to be liked.

The Suffocation of Insecurity

The Suffocation of Insecurity

My friend who sat before me boasting about her accomplishments was forfeiting her own Christian reality. It made me sad because she wasn’t living in the freedom that comes with being a part of the body of Christ, and because I can so easily find myself in her shoes.

My hormones made me do it? Adventures in Menopause

My hormones made me do it? Adventures in Menopause

. . . I had to learn something in the midst of feeling controlled by my hormones: I cannot allow my body, my emotions and my hormones to control me. I needed to be controlled only by the love of Christ, even in the depths of menopause. And God says I can be (2 Cor 5:14, 2 Tim 1:7).

The Secret to Community

The Secret to Community

Certain that true community and growth were only possible through unflinching vulnerability, I committed to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. I shared all the gory details of my past and present struggles, heaping burdens upon willing listeners while remaining a safe distance from their attempts to speak truth into my life.

Bitterness and the Church

Bitterness and the Church

When we, as kids, would complain to my dad about how mom wasn’t letting us have the sleepover we asked for, or when I entered that phase of life in college in which I felt I knew everything and she knew little, he would slowly say, “That’s my bride you’re talking about.”

Can You Handle Criticism?

Can You Handle Criticism?

As I tossed and turned in the wee hours of the morning, my frustration grew; not with the speakers of the words I obsessed over, but with myself. It was clear to me that I had become a woman whose worth felt threatened by other’s opinions.

The Jerks and The Jaded: How to Avoid the Pitfalls of Seminary

The Jerks and The Jaded: How to Avoid the Pitfalls of Seminary

Whenever you feel like you are chasing a campus popularity contest or entering the rat race to publish or be a certain teacher’s favorite, remember: no one cares. Globally? There are two billion Chinese and Indian people who couldn't care less. Don't believe me? Walk up to a dozen American millennials and ask who John Piper is and watch them stare at you. 

Mommy Wars and Glory Thieves

Mommy Wars and Glory Thieves

I realized my jerk syndrome had gotten out of hand when a new friend genuinely apologized to me for using cloth diapers and making her own baby food. I cringed inside as she spoke realizing the very thing I hate about the mommy world – pervasive comparison – was what I inflicted upon her as I tried to explain my aversion to “mommy-ness.” Yes. I am the reverse-discrimination jerk mother. And what a fool I am to think myself outside of the supposed “mommy war” just because I despise it.

The very fact that I hate it tells me I am very much inside of it.

When Your Spouse Disappoints

When Your Spouse Disappoints

So they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives. Yikes. When words and communication are kind of your thing, this is terrifying. So how do we do this? How do we respond when we aren’t getting what we want, even when what we want is a good thing (like a loving husband or a respectful wife)?

#Blessed

#Blessed

We’ve all been there; we’ve all seen it. Three beautiful children, a handsome husband, the new Lexus making a slight appearance in front of their Anthropologie-esque home with their new puppy making its debut on your Instagram feed. One of these pictures was in my feed recently. The caption read “I’m so in love with these people. #Blessed #Godisgood.” In that moment I was genuinely thankful with her. Then I glanced down to read the comments.

Prince or Pauper?

Prince or Pauper?

As I sat daydreaming about a life situation of late I veered into thinking about “the two young princes”. One was eager to take the sword, lusted after his seat on the throne and scoffed at those who came before him. The other relished in the wisdom of his teacher, humbly knew he was not ready for the throne, but valiantly and courageously took the sword when the moment was right to save the kingdom.

Inviting or Evangelizing?

Inviting or Evangelizing?

The key to evangelism is spending time with God—reading and studying your bible, praying, etc. Evangelism is an over-flow of your heart and it begins with your relationship with God.

What Should I Wear?

What Should I Wear?

I work at trying to understand and apply the Bible so that it is lived out in my life.  So, in reading 1 Tim. 2:9-10 which clearly talks about women’s apparel, what should I wear?  At first glance, I’d get rid of any gold or pearls and my one (mother-of-the-bride) dress that I would deem as “costly.”  I can twist my hair in a clip as long as I don’t braid it and I can wear…good works.  That would be embarrassing.

Grumbling to Gratitude

Grumbling to Gratitude

What about what I want? My desires are disappointed. I am tempted to grumble. As the Holy Spirit prompts my heart, I am slightly aware of this soul temptation. If I am angry enough, I just might throw a fit. In that moment when our hearts squeeze that desire tighter, we’ve become discontent and full of grumbling because we did not receive what we wanted. Discontentment and grumbling are best friends.