A very common piece of advice, or warning, I have received is that my closest friends should not be in our church. I have been told it’s impossible to have close friendships with church members, warned I will get burned, and told to find another outlet for community in order to protect myself and my family from negative experiences.
We mask our obsession with making all things perfect for the holidays under the disguise of hospitality. There’s nothing wrong with having a sparkling clean house or a beautiful table setting or even an amazing meal. But these things are not what should drive our hospitality during this season or any season.
I get it, we don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. It’s the last thing we want to do. So when someone asks you out or you realize your dating relationship isn’t going to end in marriage be honest with the other person. Sometimes the most caring and loving thing to do when a relationship is over—is by telling the other person.