He’s not nourishing and cherishing me, I would lament. I’d count down the moments until he arrived home from work, waiting for him to burst in the door and rescue me from my failures and frustrations. When he didn’t live up to my demands, I gave into despair. I tagged him “in” and checked myself “out.”
If men always lead from behind closed doors, then they are not leading like Jesus. When men are not attentive and in tune with the thoughts and concerns of women, they are not reflecting Jesus. If men do not honor, serve, respect and include their sisters, then they are not following Christ’s example of leadership.
As she often and shockingly does, Miley Cyrus recently grabbed the headlines with her claim to be “pansexual.” Apparently, this means she doesn’t relate to being male or female or gay or transgendered or gender-fluid. It also means any sexual partner of hers doesn’t need to relate to being male or female or gay or transgendered or gender-fluid. So, Miley Cyrus is pansexual: she’s inclusive of all genders. Can we say that God is like Miley Cyrus, being inclusive of all genders?
Many of us have been wounded by some of the pitfalls in attempting friendship with the opposite sex. Many can sense that something in the way we handle these relationships is “off,” but maybe we’re not sure exactly what. As Christians, how do we negotiate what is appropriate and inappropriate between men and women in friendship while honoring both purity and family?