It may be the case that some of us have lesser capacities than others, smaller investments to make. It may be the case that someone else’s gifts seem to be more transformative in the lives of others, or are more easily seen. It is, however, most certainly the case that each person is created in the image of God and positioned in the world to reflect Him for His glory within the scope He has assigned to each (Isaiah 43:7; 2 Corinthians 10:13).
I fully understand that my children only have one mother, and that’s me. It is my job to anticipate their needs and help them grow into mature adults. That is why there is hands down absolutely nothing else in this world I want my girls to know more than the fact that I love Jesus and that their parents desire to give their lives for Him. But the way they know that is by watching us actually DO that.
I realized my jerk syndrome had gotten out of hand when a new friend genuinely apologized to me for using cloth diapers and making her own baby food. I cringed inside as she spoke realizing the very thing I hate about the mommy world – pervasive comparison – was what I inflicted upon her as I tried to explain my aversion to “mommy-ness.” Yes. I am the reverse-discrimination jerk mother. And what a fool I am to think myself outside of the supposed “mommy war” just because I despise it.
The very fact that I hate it tells me I am very much inside of it.
I have to be honest; I cringe a little every time I hear those who are without a romantic counterpart referred to as “A Single.” Talk about putting a label on someone. I don’t want to be referred to as “A Married” so I can imagine the desire not to be pigeon holed goes both ways. I’m more than just “A Married;” I’m a whole person made as an individual by the Creator of the universe. I am married, that is a fact, but it doesn’t define who I am.
The measure of our faith isn’t in looking to the person on your right or left. We know from scripture in Philippians 1:6 that we all are daily being perfected to the image of Christ. What we neglect to see (because we are too busy comparing ourselves to each other) is that the way we are being perfected and the results will all look different. How the Holy Spirit brings about sanctification in my life will be different than yours.