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Why I Go Into Strip Clubs

Why I Go Into Strip Clubs

It’s a privilege to spend time with these girls, my friends, at the club. I’m 100% convinced the only difference between “them” and me is they don’t know yet how they are fearfully and wonderfully made by a Savior (Ps 139:14).

Obnoxious Accountability

Obnoxious Accountability

We’re all weak, which means we all need one another to be steadfast in obeying Christ. How then should we seek to hold one another accountable? By relishing God’s grace, being realistic, offering kind correction and loving one another the whole time. 

God Uses Unlikely People

God Uses Unlikely People

With meticulous intent, organizing the opposite of what our hearts naturally expect, God uses what appears scandalous to accomplish the good and glorious. He uses the shocking and sinful to show glory and redemption. He chooses the unlikely and unassuming to achieve greatness. Why? So that through the failing appearances of others, God’s glory astounds.

From the Need to Be Understood

From the Need to Be Understood

Clinging to the comfort and hope of the gospel, I’m free from demanding that my friends love me perfectly. I don’t need their perfect ministry because I have the perfect ministry of Christ. And as I humbly receive from him, I’m able to humbly receive the imperfect love of others as tangible instruments of God’s grace to me.

When People Annoy You

When People Annoy You

No matter who you are or what stage of life you’re in, there are people in your life who are just difficult. People who take more than they give. People who endlessly repeat the same poor decisions that affect your life negatively. People whose personalities are drastically different than your own.

13 Reasons Why and Our Responsibility As Believers

13 Reasons Why and Our Responsibility As Believers

Often our discomfort with a topic (sex, rape, homosexuality, suicide, etc) can be misinterpreted as discomfort with the person. As believers, we can respond to difficult stories and hard conversations with compassion for the people who share them with us.

When Someone Doesn't Like You

When Someone Doesn't Like You

Realizing I've been unfriended. Finding out I wasn't invited. The sting of disapproval and rejection cuts to the heart. I don't like to admit it, but I desperately want to be liked.

When We Read Books Besides the Bible

When We Read Books Besides the Bible

Books that can skillfully apply the Word to practical life can teach us how to live with one another and love one another better. Well-written books can help us connect the eternal wisdom of God to the daily rhythms of life, and that’s a great thing, because that’s where he works (Ps 139:1-6)!

The Secret to Community

The Secret to Community

Certain that true community and growth were only possible through unflinching vulnerability, I committed to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. I shared all the gory details of my past and present struggles, heaping burdens upon willing listeners while remaining a safe distance from their attempts to speak truth into my life.

Don't Hit Your Sister

Don't Hit Your Sister

As children of God, we hurt each other constantly, thinking the pain and retribution we inflict on one another has nothing to do with him. But we are wrong, it’s never just between us.

Talking Over God

Talking Over God

We are talkers. Our talking isn’t just a way we pass the time. There is much more going on with our desire to speak. Part of the reason we speak compulsively is an attempt to rule and subdue the earth, because we image a God of spoken power.

Does Church Membership Really Matter?

Does Church Membership Really Matter?

I went to Bible school and seminary, and I have never been a member of a church. Never.

I always considered myself a member of my childhood church by default of my parents’ membership, but, like my faith at the time, it was never my own. 

When Church is a Lonely Place

When Church is a Lonely Place

If all the church should be seeking to pursue one another, and you are in fact a Christian, then this includes you. It doesn’t say to expect everyone else to do this for you. Regardless of personality or comfort level, every Christian is called to love and care for one another.

Misconceptions About Singleness

Misconceptions About Singleness

We were all single at some point. But sometimes it seems as though we fail to remember that period of our lives when we interact with our single friends. We say stupid things and give advice from our experiences as we try to help our single friends figure out how to live life well and of course, find a spouse.

A Mother's Role in the Church

A Mother's Role in the Church

I fully understand that my children only have one mother, and that’s me. It is my job to anticipate their needs and help them grow into mature adults. That is why there is hands down absolutely nothing else in this world I want my girls to know more than the fact that I love Jesus and that their parents desire to give their lives for Him. But the way they know that is by watching us actually DO that.

Marriage Isn't the End.

Marriage Isn't the End.

In my single years people – mostly married people – told me to wait, be patient, be content, and to not be “too picky.” I felt placed in a side category – the less than category – countless times because of my marital status. I felt like the married people I knew had forgotten what it was like to be single and therefore, how to love a single person well.

A Distinctive Call to Make Disciples

A Distinctive Call to Make Disciples

As a disciple-maker I am pointing women to something and someone greater than myself. In return, I get the distinct privilege of watching people become greater than me. Not only that, I get to become greater than me. As I experience God's redemption in beautiful and shocking ways, I become more like Christ as I strive with my disciples towards holiness. This is Christian discipleship.

What To Do With Shame, Part 1

What To Do With Shame, Part 1

Instead of teaching people to ignore or deny their shame, we should use it for the purpose God intended: to point to Him and our need for Him. We don’t need to sit in shame, but if we truly want to “conquer it,” we must run to the One who covers it with his blood. He is more than able to save and free us from even the darkest pits. 

Be True To Yourself?

Be True To Yourself?

In our increasingly secular culture, ultimate loyalty to self as the greatest commandment really isn’t that surprising. I wonder though if many of us who claim Christ aren’t still deeply committed to our culture’s highest value instead of our God’s. With all our talk of love languages, Buzzfeed quizzes and personality tests, I can’t help but question how much of our belief system is entangled with the lust to express our individuality instead of – or at the expense of – pursuing Christ? 

How To Help The Addict

How To Help The Addict

If you have a family or are engaged in a community of people, it doesn’t take long to find someone dealing with addiction. Whether it is a member of your family, small group participant or a member of a congregation, there is someone near you who is struggling.

What do you do when someone you love has an addiction?