We’re all weak, which means we all need one another to be steadfast in obeying Christ. How then should we seek to hold one another accountable? By relishing God’s grace, being realistic, offering kind correction and loving one another the whole time.
If our “Christianese” doesn’t align with the words of God himself, what language are we really speaking?
Certain that true community and growth were only possible through unflinching vulnerability, I committed to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. I shared all the gory details of my past and present struggles, heaping burdens upon willing listeners while remaining a safe distance from their attempts to speak truth into my life.
That’s when I realized that in the midst of my need, I didn’t actually want God to provide for me; I wanted Him to make me comfortable. I didn’t want enough to cover this specific need. I wanted enough that I would never have to rely on the help of others again. I said I relied on God, but I really just wanted to make ends meet on my own terms. I didn’t want other people to be involved. I wanted Him to provide in a way that I could just meet the demands I faced by myself.
“Your marriage is not your own. Stop treating it like it is. You WILL destroy it if you continue to act as if it belongs only to you. Not because you necessarily want to, but you can’t help yourself apart from me. If you aren’t living for Me, you are only living for yourself. At any moment in your given life, if you aren’t living to glorify Me---you are striving for your own glory. Stop. Or you will destroy everything I have given you.”
Sometimes, when I am reading material on our union with or our identity in Christ, the writer seems to be lifting up the creation above the Creator. And we must be careful that we don’t sound like a Christianized self-esteem presentation.
So they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives. Yikes. When words and communication are kind of your thing, this is terrifying. So how do we do this? How do we respond when we aren’t getting what we want, even when what we want is a good thing (like a loving husband or a respectful wife)?